Coming Soon!

Turns out I'm terrible at blogging! I may get better in the next few months.
WE ARE HAVING A BABY! ... tomorrow.

 

Our boys are utterly excited. Skyler has been telling every checker at every store we were at today that his mom is having a baby tomorrow. That boy melts my heart.

Here's the scoop.

This time last year we weren't sure if adding another Caughlin to our family would even happen. It certainly wasn't happening in a timely fashion. Last December we decided to seek help from a Dr. After 3 months of "help" we were told we were pregnant! Great news. With the many nights we spent praying for this miracle and the number prayers being sent our way for it too, things couldn't have been more perfect!

Pregnancy is such a blessing. I am fortunate enough to NOT get green and sick..tho maybe it would be different if I wasn't carrying ANOTHER boy! But my boys will always take care of me, that is my hope.

 

We will be delivering down at the University of Washington. I know not many people know this. We are hoping being closer to resources and hi end technology that things will go smooth. We are anticipating some bumps in the road, but have been advised they could quite possibly be mild. Of course our minds send us into a flash back of 10 years ago when we were hurled into parenthood of a very fragile sick baby. Like I said, we are praying this isn't the case, and if it is...well we are covered in all areas. I've been seeing high risk Dr's for 6 weeks. I have met with a few of Skyler's Dr's from children's to get them on board of the "what ifs". This are going to be OK. We have faith that it will be.

All we ask for is prayers and support.

We prayed so hard for this little boy, and God gave him to us just as he is intended to be.

 

I am terrified. And am excited all at the same time. My emotions all day have been way hi and very low. Its hard to explain. My 2 beautiful boys here right now with me are going to become BIG and BIGGER brothers! Yikes!

With all this emotional energy I've gotten 2 loads of laundry done, vacuumed the stairs and up stairs, mopped the floors and all the bathrooms are spotless! Ya for nerves!

 

Please be patient with us. We want to share our blessing with everyone. And we will as soon as it seems fit. His stability and health comes first.

 

Here goes nothin...

 

Did I get the memo?

I've been meaning to write for what seems like a year or two now. Life seems to just happen and get in the way-and the non essential things defiantly get put aside.

I needed to share my experience of whats been going on here at the Caughlin home this past week.

School has started. And oh what a joy school is. The battle starts at 6:30am and usually will calm by 8pm at night. (I understand this is a common household occurrence....and I sure hope you other mama's start your work day sweaty and frazzled like I do. Say yes, it makes me feel better.)

Seth just finished up soccer through the Parks and Rec. He LOVED it. He gained some friendships, which at 4, its pretty valuable and extremely cute! He gained alot of confidence in this short time.
One thing we noticed is Skyler was really wanting to do something. mostly cause I think he saw Seth got to be in the spot light and naturally Skyler would like to be in one as well. He got sad when I told him soccer wasn't for him

(no contact sports for that cute blond boy.)

So that night I went searching the Internet for safe, fun things for Skyler to participate in. We did t-ball a few years ago. He's obviously too old for that at the age of 9, but not able to play baseball due to the vision disability. That's when I discovered Special Olympics Bowling League was starting in less than a month.

PERFECT!

Now whether this would be for him or for us, we will find out in the end. But we enrolled him. Signing up for the Special Olympics is easy, yet requires some paper work you must convince your dr you need as soon as possible. (along with the permission slips for medications and plan of care write up needed ASAP by the school nurse) which NEITHER is an easy task. I am thankful they didn't require us to be seen, they could just go by last dr visit for vitals.

So Skyler was going to be on the team. He was going to bowl! Which is great cause we had his 9th birthday party at the bowling alley! He LOVED it! As small as the kid is, he can sure pack a 7-10 lb ball around like nothin'.

First Day of Practice

We show up the bowling alley 10 min early. Seth and Skyler and I are all excited to see what the next 2 hrs bring us.

I walk in to find chaos, pure chaos. I find the gals who are in charge and plan to get Skyler signed in and set up in his lane. With his anxiousness he begins the questions of where are we? to what are we gonna do? followed by can I play when we get home? Between him and little Seth overwhelmed with everything around him I hear the lady tell me "sorry we don't have his paperwork" as I try and explain to her that I dropped it off at her work and she probably should look one more time because the time bomb holding on to my left hand was about to go off any moment....3, 2, 1 BOOOOM!

It's over.

We now have completely melted down. As I am trying to dry tears and calm voices we are shuffled off to the side so people can continue to pay and begin to play.

I'm also realising that I have just been handed a very large dose of reality. This really isn't what I had in visioned and I know absolutely no one. I want to explain something. I have been exposed to alot of different situations and ranges of disability. In fact I find comfort in talking to other parents while waiting for clinic appts at Children's about their child's strengths and difficulty's as it helps ME better understand my child and our situations as much as becoming more versed and understanding of others around me. Having a child of our own who has so much going on medically, behaviorally and cognitivly I'ld like to say I am very accepting and understanding And what I thought desensitized.

This wasnt the case in room full of developmentally disabled adults. Its not fair to judge, and I promise with all my heart I wasn't. As I look around I see worn down, tired and ragged moms. Me, in 10-15 years from now. I see Skyler. I see a future that is already been paved and is waiting us. This is not what I had planned. But this IS my life. How have I never until now, been exposed to what our future will be like as parents of a child like Skyler. In my eyes, he is perfect, funny, adorable and witty smart in many many ways. And as a mother you never really look at your child is different. And we try very hard to make sure Skyler has all opportunities like other boys and girls. Yes he is different but he is capable. (I'm blaming Denial here)

Maybe its cause I knew no one and they were so unorganized that my first impression was tarnished with the Special Olympics of Skagit County. I was done. This wasn't for us, Skyler is too young. We aren't "those" people. IM not ready yet? And they cant even keep paperwork in order. I was just going to find something else.

Something tho, made me email the director on Tuesday. I asked if she had found Skyler's paper work. She quickly responded yes and that we were set to participate on Thursday. I battled with myself. Do I take him. Do I "quit" and hide? No-I couldn't do that. Its reality I am afraid of. Its truth. I need to get out of denial and embrace our son and know that its OK and a here and now thing.

Off to bowling we went. Skyler was VERY excited. And today it didn't seem so bad walking into a room full of- well people. I saw smiles and warm greetings. I think Skyler got 10 high fives as he joined the group. Instant acceptance.

What was I afraid of?

To make things better, I turned around and alas! A familiar face. I had met a lady who has a 20 year old son who is blind and has similar developmental delays and behavioral tendencies like Skyler. We have swapped bits of our stories but never really talked. She and her son P were there. I instantly felt relief. I wasn't alone anymore. We sat and shared more stories (I was taking mental notes because she has got 10 years experience on me!!) I thanked her for coming. Our boys got along great...2 kids obsessed with Ipads! uh oh.

Skyler made many friends today.

He has a tendency to wrap himself around every persons heart he meets. Hes amazing.

One thing I learned today-

Take a moment and smell the flowers. Its not that bad.

I was absolutely terrified last week. I felt out of place, overwhelmed by reality

and that this just wasn't for us. When in fact, its exactly where we needed to be.

I may have learned a lot in the past 9 years. But I have so much more to learn.

So the point of the update was?

I was just so tickled to make the background so pretty and put some pics up I completely forgot to up date the "Skyler situation" . We went down to Childrens today for our yearly Clinic appt (4 months late, but who's counting). We were instructed in August by his Oral Surgeon, who did the distraction a year and half ago, to get a CT scan so he could evaluate it and put together a plan....
wouldn't you know that today was the first time he actually looked at the pics! Silly Silly Dr.

Skyler had his hearing checked. Both tubes are in place, left one seems to be blocked or something slightly as the air didn't flow through it as nicely as the right. During the tests he did good. I love watching him perform and "get" what they are asking him to do. We went so many years not being able to do all these things, that I really enjoy being able to sit back and let him speak for him self, manage tasks they ask etc. Its a relief.
So the results of hearing test were normal hearing in right ear and Mild to Moderate hearing loss in Left ear. Now he had a ear infection a week ago, he's still mending. So we wont really know for sure if its due to that or a permanent issue.

Our ENT says the left tube is close to coming out too, which could also be a reason for loss. (that's why he had them put back in 2 years ago anyways) too many loud WHATS and HUHS. :P
Dr Perkins (ent) also gave us some hope that trachless days may be in the future. A while back he had mentioned to me, after the distraction disaster, a procedure called Tongue Base reduction. Yes, it's what it sounds like. His anatomy is so small that the tongue simply rests against the trachea wall. Literally blocking airway. There is a chance that if they reduce the size of that it could make more room for air to flow freely, eliminating the need for the trach. He said the only issue it could really make was some aspiration issues (swallowing fluids/food into lungs) but not really likely. There seems to be no real risks aside from that to do this procedure. It is painful a two week long sore throat. But our other options are another jaw distraction (upper and lower) an we dread that. and Also an airway reconstruction. They would take a rib graft and place it in the windpipe to help keep up the floppy airway. This is a MAJOR surgery. Like a week in a medication induced coma...mmmm this mama isn't so keen on that. It would probably do the trick, but is SO risky! SO time will tell.

He's also a candidate for Camp Korey this year! Its a week long camp in Carnation for kids with facial differences. Nurses/Dr's on staff 24/7! Mom and dad just have to be ok with the week with out him!

I think that's it. In 6-8 weeks we will hear from his team of Dr's to see what they decided...and we can hope its something successful and possible to do during the summer!

~Casie and Family

WHOOPS!

Well I've come to my senses...I'm back, I will keep this up!

Things have been SO quiet over the last year that I felt no need to post, sad but true! We gave Skyler the year off from any major surgeries/procedures. The kid developed a bit of a complex from all the visits...anxiety much?

He's a trooper.

Where to Start....

Last I wrote we were just celebrating a LARGE victory over insurance coverage! I swear to you I have NO idea where we would be now (even with out major surgeries this year) with out medical for Skyler. To let you in a little secret...Mike and I were members of a church years ago, and even baptized with them, Skyler even. We fell out of the "routine" of church and faith for so many reasons that aren't acceptable. But since our victory in March '10 we have learned to become more reliant on God. We feel it was a sign to us. He has begun to lead us on so many journeys, that the insurance battle was just the beginning.

June 26, 2010

I ran my first 13.1! Yes Miles. No joke! It was hard, but OH SO WORTH IT! I ran as a member of Team in Training. Team supports The Leukemia and Lymphoma Society. I raised $2500.

I ran in honor of a dear friends little boy Christopher "Topher" Hastings. Tho he's not diagnosed with Leukemia he is battling a rare cancer that affects the liver. I caught the runners bug. Since June I have completed another half marathon a full (26.2 miles) marathon (BTW, NEVER AGAIN) and a 10k. I'm still figuring out what is next. Fun fact tho, Mike has decided he enjoys this as a pass time as well. It's kind of cute to be able to run with him, even tho he's a million times faster than I! We WILL become Half Marathon Fanatics soon.

Birthdays!

Both the boys had their birthdays in August. We actually took them to SilverWood with their cousin James and Aunt and Uncle. We as a family decided this WILL be a annual thing! Family is SO important!

And the Rest of the Story...

Well not so much more to update on. We are doing well. Mike has been able to stay busy with work this winter, maybe a couple weeks off total.

Skyler is doing great in school. Seth is doing well. We sure miss Dana, we took him out because of Mike's sporadic schedule and the $ we were missing from work. But the boy needs preschool soon! He is one smart cookie!

Christmas was great. We took the boys to Great Wolf Lodge (we are a water family, can you tell?) they were very impressed and not so concerned that they didn't have much to open this year (phew).

Last Wednesday I turned 30! EEK! It wasn't as bad as i thought it was gonna be. The only bad part was waking up at Children's that morning as Skyler had a few teeth pulled the day before. But we went home soon after breakfast.

This past weekend me and 12 of my friends (who are AWESOME!) spent the evening at the Tulalip Casino! VIP style! it was SUCH a blast! Each and every year from now on

I'm gonna be 30.

Till next time

Casie and Family

A milestone!

So over the last 2 months we have been apealing with our insurance company to get Skyler another 1 million dollars in medical coverage...ya I said ANOTHER. The kiddo has blown through in 7 years $980 THOUSAND dollars. We were really on either side of the fence with feelings on which way the "board of trustees" would go. We really couldnt tell you how it would turn out. It took a whole month for them to make the decison that YES they would allow an increase from 1 mill to 2 million in coverage. Not just for Skyler but EVERYONE in the entire Iron Workers Union! GO SKYLER GO!!

We are so blessed they found it in their heart. It was a hard day to go down and talk to them about our daily life of how it would be WITHOUT insurance. Even to the typical healthy family it could be catostrauphic, but really a kid with a trach simply cannot go with out insurance. So to say the least we are relieved. And in 10 years as we come accross skyler reaching his max we hope we will have other options forhim, but we will no longer have to worry :)

13.1!!

Gosh oh golly! Time has passed, from Birthdays to first days of school, Halloween and Christmas!! SO sorry!

The boys are well and growing like weeds!! Skyler is in the middle of Kindergarten at Little Mountain Elementary School and we LOVE his teachers!! Seth is at Dana's still and learning to play like a little boy :) He makes us so proud. Well they BOTH do!

Mike was off work for about 2 months around Christmas time but is now working in Everett at a paper plant Yah for money!!

I am still counting pills daily at Hilltop :) I love my job!

Our biggest news so far this year has actually been more my news but with 3 of my biggest fans to follow me through this journey! (whether they want to or not!) My cousin has convinced me to join a really awesome organization called TEAM IN TRAINING benefiting the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society. I will be running in the Rock n' Roll Seattle Half Marathon on June 26 2010 and my cousin will be doing the ENTIRE marathon!! (she rocks)

If you get a chance...please take a look at my fundraising page. I am actually running in honor of a little guy named Christopher Hastings who is in the middle of a battle with cancer right now. Hes only 2 years old. http://pages.teamintraining.org/wa/rnrseatl10/caughcasie is my page. Please pass along the URL as anyone can look at this and contribute! Your generosity is greatly appreciated!

So I will keep you updated on this latest event! Its kinda nice to NOT be posting about hospital stays :P tho....this sort of falls into that category, but not for us.

Take care
Casie and Family

It's ONLY Wednesday!!

Alright, so a quick update!! Skyler is doing great, aside from the FLU! Yea it found the Caughlin home!! He was diagnosed with a flu, not "the" flu, they can't really pin point Swine and/or Seasonal...but know that all his symptoms are exactly that, the flu. And the swine is going around the Valley these days. But that was Monday and it is now Wednesday. Monday we thought he was on the mend from a nasty cold, him and Seth actually. Low grade fevers all day and the nice deep hacky cough. By 5pm Skyler's temp spiked to 102.8! YIKES. So now hes on his 5 day treatment of Zithromax for green boogies (love that trach) and Tamiflu for flu like symptoms. It's not a cure all, but sure helps subside the nastys I think we caught it on day2 maybe 3 and they say if by day 3 you can get on Tamiflu you can help decrease severity. SO Monday the 19th here We come!!! Seth on the other hand I can't tell if he is comin or goin from this stuff! He was in the ER on Thursday night with croup. We have dealt with it before with him (hes mostly healthy boy, but usually can have the narrowing of bronchial crap...whats with my kids LUNGS!) but Thursday he woke me up from a dead sleep with that high pitched wheeze. I tried all the tricks and no luck so we trotted off to the ER. In and out mostly. First croup case of the year for the dr. Yea us.

Mike had a few classes over the past 2 weeks for PT decks. (another cert for work) so he's all refreshed on that. I still count pills by 5's. :P and nothing exciting going on there, which is good!

Oh, Mike and I both decided to better ourselves!! (it's possible, we can get better than this he he) I have started a 12 week boot camp at Mt Baker Crossfit. I LOVE LOVE LOVE this gym!! I did it about 4 years ago and was so succssful in weight loss and strength training, I have always said...IF i ever got the chance to go to a gym again, i would fork the money out for Crossfit ONLY!! And I have been able to do that! Its a 3 night a week 1 hour long class where they literally make sweat drip from your eye balls!! :) So far on week 3, minus being sick and 1 day missed cause of sick kids I feel so much better already plus I have lost 4lbs!! Thanks to the awsome trainers and the ZONE diet (its not a diet its a way of eating now)

And Mike has started taking MUI THAI classes. Nuts huh? He likes it as well, but also has had to skip a class due to illness. Why did we start this in the middle of cold/flu season??

Thats enough for now. We are gearing up for the holidays, as they quickly approach! We were at Target a week or so ago, the counter to Christmas was 80 days or so...Holy Moly! The boys are super excited for Halloween I cannot WAIT to share pictures on here of them, they are so cute!!!!

All our love
The Caughlin's